Friday, April 17, 2009

Your Child Attending College This Year?


Your child attending college this year? Believe me, I understand all the feelings you may be going through.

Maybe it is your first child leaving to go to college and you are having a lot of anxiety just thinking about it. The first is always the hardest for everyone because it is the first time you are having to deal with this and you have constant doubts on every decision you make.

I found that it was really hard to get answers to the many questions I had. Where to find money to be able to send your child is the hardest. I had three go through and I can honestly say we were never sure we were going about things the correct way, or maybe I should say the most beneficial way for our family.

Your first child is hard to let go, the fear you feel for letting them go tends to over weight the feeling of excitement you feel for them at the same time. Maybe your child is going far away or maybe they're just staying close, both is hard.

I can tell you from my own experience that all three of my children stayed pretty close but all went to different schools. Each of my children went to a college that really fit their personality and also to a school that offered a good education in the field they were going into.

I found that them being close enough to come home when they wanted, be able to call for free when they wanted, and stay at college and enjoy their new found freedom worked well for all of us. Believe it or not I saw my kids quite a bit and they called frequently. I believe it is because I tried not to put to much pressure on them and tried hard to understand their wants and needs.

I am not saying this was always easy because that would be a flat out lie. When my oldest left, I cried. When my second left I felt better on a lot of things that bothered me the first time but still, I cried. My third, being she was the farthest away, I was concerned. I still felt comfortable in a lot of ways because of the experience I had but still, I cried. I helped them all to a point of getting their rooms set up and left immediately, why sit looking at each other and making the day harder? I knew they wanted to get started with their new life.

Give your child all the advice you can give them of any situation you can think of. Offer support at a moments notice whenever they may need it. Cheer them up every once in awhile by stopping by and taking them out to eat or sending them something. Tell them what you expect of them and remind them of that once in awhile. Most of all, trust them and give them this time to grow and learn to become this person they are intended to be.

I have three teachers now, not all with permanent jobs, but they are all working in their field. They have made me very proud and all those things that worried me about college days are in my past. You will never stop worrying about your children, thier age doesn't matter, and there will always be a new adventure in their lives.

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